This post I kind of goes with the last two posts. But I promise the next one will be more cheerful and happy. There's nothing quite as terrible as liking someone who just doesn't like you back.
It's a different kind of heartbreak than say hurting after a break up. Because in this situation there's nothing you can do. Most often than not the unrequited love situation is with a friend/best friend/etc.
You have strong feelings for someone and they just simply look at you like you're family. It's painful. It sucks to put it lightly.
I've been there, done that. And I know how much it hurts. I personally think one of the worst parts is that they don't like you back, so you feel like you're not good enough. And when they go and find someone who you can see will hurt them, but they seem to think that this person is good for them...even if you weren't. Does that make sense? I felt like I was rambling right there. But when dealing with this I remember the crappy way I felt because I saw them with someone that apparently was worthy of their love, even when I wasn't. So when you come across this situation I have four small tips for these kind of situations.
Unrequited Love:
1. First evaluate who it is you like, a friend, best friend, coworker figure out who they are in your life. And at the very beginning give yourself the best chance you can have. Try--wait scratch that, Show them how great you are. Whether this is romancing them, spilling your guts and telling them you like them. Get it out in the open, don't try to hide it because it'll eat away at you.
2. If they just don't like you like that--don't hate them. Just take a deep breath, forgive them, and if you must let the tears fall (preferably not in front of them). This may sound harsh but I promise it's not: just drop it, don't try going after them. Because they just don't like you in that way.
3. And after this is done, congratulate yourself because the worst is over with. Once you've fallen you can now pick yourself up whether on your own, or with the help of friends....or maybe even a [future] romance...which brings me to...
4. Keep your heart and eyes open. Never give up hope. Keep searching for love, or don't search for it and let it come to you. Either way just keep the hope and faith alive. Because if that one person wasn't meant for you, they just weren't. It's not your fault. And it just means that you weren't meant for that person but there's someone you are meant for out there. And sooner or later they will come into your life.
As much as it is important to have someone love you, it's equally important to love. So even if the love wasn't meant to be don't let it stop you. Because everyone deserves to have some sort of light that is love in their lives.
And no matter how depressed you feel, remember you're not alone. So go out, have fun, talk to friends, or listen to that 'damn' song that gets to you every time.
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