True Love Waits...Or Does It?

Day Five. Warning this does indeed deal with sex.

The saying true love waits is infamous. I believe. Honestly almost every single time I've heard that from a person, they usually end up breaking that "wait".

Call me really really old fashion but I honestly don't think sex is an essential part of a relationship...until later. I want a relationship where the girl will end up being one of my best friends. I want someone that will have similar interests as mine yet still be different enough to bicker with me. I want a cuddle buddy damn it. And when I think of wanting a girlfriend I don't think about someone that'll have sex with me.

I don't want sex until we've been together for a long time and we're both ready for it. I was never against the idea of waiting till marriage. More than anything I just wanted to wait until a perfect right time.

And it wasn't until recently when discussing it with one of my friends that I realized that as much as I may or may not like it to be sex is another way to get to know your person. So why would you get married with them if you didn't know/and weren't sure of every aspect of who they are. Sex is a part of that.

So yes I want to wait until I've been in the relationship for a while, and I'll wait till the time is right and when it happens it'll happen.

And although I've heard not to, I'll try to make it romantic. Because that's just the romantic in me.

Now this post isn't me preaching for everyone to hold onto it as long as they can! Or even go hand it out to everyone and anyone.

My advice is just make sure you're totally ready and do yourself a favor and make sure it's someone you really care about and love, and more importantly that they have shown you that they really care and love you as well.

Looking at it from a female's perspective, I've lost count of how many female friends I have that are "in love" with their boyfriends and ending up giving it up. And as soon as that was done things changed, and they were crushed. And I felt bad and in some cases I was left to help her pick up the pieces. Only to have her go on to the next one.

Maybe that's something that has scarred me. I don't want to hurt a girl like that. I don't know.

And there's very few odds that whoever you give it to will truly be your true love. I'm not saying it will.

Let's change the phrase "true love waits" to something like "love will still be there regardless of the sex".

Sex is just the next level/step in a relationship. I get that. But that's no reason to rush through all the other levels to get there. Enjoy the whole game, don't skip to that level. Take your time. Don't skip the steps on stairs to the point where you're left out of breath because you rushed.

Enjoy the game one level at a time. And enjoy the view from each step as you ascend to that high level. So when indeed you do make it there, it'll be something meaningful. And you'll look back at your journey with a grand smile.

Not gonna lie my inner romantic went all goo-goo for this picture. I really like it.